It turns out that there is an emotion called “husband jealousy”, which comes from one person feeling afraid of losing the other. The cause of fear comes from feeling like you are not good enough or unattractive.
On the wedding day, while waiting for the groom’s family to come pick up the bride, she accidentally said to her aunt: “We’re getting married and 2 days later we’ll go to the ward to register our marriage.” The aunt rolled her eyes and pulled her to a corner: “You have to sign the paper first to be sure!” What if you get married and your husband runs away and won’t accept you anymore?”
I thought my aunt was joking, what’s the point of running after getting married? Who would have thought that she said she was stupid, but she was telling the truth because she also told many people on her mother’s side. From not thinking much, she suddenly saw what her aunt said… made sense.
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Well, I got pregnant first so the wedding took place. While her family all came from the fields and worked just enough to make ends meet, her husband’s family was well-off and had enough to eat. Her body shape is bold and rough; Her husband is tall and handsome. Just after graduating, she didn’t have a job yet, but her husband had finished his master’s degree, and his career path was wide open. He is her first lover but she is probably his nth girlfriend.
The more she compares, the more she feels inferior to her husband. Returning to the same house, she suddenly had to brace herself to be “on the same cloud” as her husband. But all she can do is just make sure the food is delicious and the house is neat because she stays at home to take care of the children and can’t strive for other things. Her joy is simply that he comes home to eat on time and the baby doesn’t cry, so he can rest.
As time passed, she began to feel very uncomfortable. She smiled but felt uneasy inside. Every time she heard her husband talk, she would study this and that, while also establishing a relationship to do business or go on a business trip. contract signing.
She blamed herself: “What’s wrong with me? If my husband has many opportunities and earns a lot of money, isn’t that good? But the sadness and frustration still persisted inside her. She became upset, read her husband’s messages and emails, and interrogated his schedule. She thought, there are full of beautiful girls out there, smarter than her and sooner or later her husband will find them. The more she thought about it, the more scared she became, the more she unjustly accused her husband of cheating.
Until one day, she accidentally read in a book the phrase: “Jealous of her husband”. She tried searching online, but people only talked about jealousy with friends, with her husband’s aunt, with colleagues… but no one talked about jealousy with her husband. She suddenly had the idea to translate this phrase into English when she was surprised when a series of articles by psychologists appeared before her eyes.
It turns out that there is an emotion called “husband jealousy”, which comes from one person feeling afraid of losing the other. The cause of fear comes from feeling like you are not good enough or unattractive.
She realizes that having this emotion is not wrong, but if she is controlled by it and causes unfortunate consequences, then it is wrong. Many wives have pushed their husbands further just because of jealousy and unreasonable control. Security in the relationship cannot come from him but must come from her.
She suggested to him: “Let’s have an in-depth talk with my husband!”. Then she began to share all the emotions and thoughts that had been accumulating for many years. He was surprised: “Why do you think like that? I have never felt that I am better than you and I have never lied to you about anything.” But she continued to tell him about wanting to find her value and confidence again. When she received support, she felt that it was all she needed from her husband.
As for herself, she needs more than that. You need to have a job, low salary is okay but it must be a job that makes you want to stick with and contribute. I will sign up for a yoga class every morning. She will also learn to drive a car so that she can occasionally drive herself to visit her parents instead of depending on him… Right now, she desires to develop herself more than ever.
Lucky
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