Before the end of the “term”, you prepare a document handing over the work to the “successor”. The content and “categories” made me laugh out loud.
Closing a 15-year marriage with assets including: 2 children, 1 house, a third person and countless unresolved disagreements, my friend signed a divorce petition.
After the divorce procedures were completed, my friend adopted the eldest daughter, her husband raised the younger son, the house was divided in two, and the “third person” was under the husband’s full authority. My friend calmly sat down and rewrote the manuscript. The handover document to my ex-husband’s new wife had content that made me laugh and cry when I read it. The minutes contained the following content:
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Based on the decisions, agreements, responsibilities and conscience of my predecessors, I now make this record to hand over the work of being the wife of Mr. Nguyen Tri A. (name at home, Bum) and the mother of baby Nguyen Tri. B. (in the minutes will be called Tom) to Ms. Lu Ngoc C. as follows.
Daily household operations tasks:
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Morning: Wake up at 5 a.m. to prepare breakfast for the whole family because Bum and baby Tom don’t like and don’t have time to eat breakfast outside. The suggested breakfast menu is posted on the left side of the refrigerator.
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While you and your father are having breakfast, you should take the time to marinate the meat and fish and prepare vegetables so that you don’t have to spend too much time making dinner in the afternoon. The list of places to buy meat and fish and notes when choosing will be sent in the appendix attached to the minutes.
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Try to finish work and get home before 6pm because in addition to cooking, you need to clean the house and fold clothes before Bum comes home. Bum has a personality that easily gets angry if the house is messy and dirty.
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After dinner, it’s time to review Tom’s homework and help him prepare his schoolbag and school supplies for the next day’s subjects. A list of class schedules and addresses of places to take extracurricular courses in martial arts, swimming, and drawing are posted next to the timetable in the study corner. I will also send a list of names and phone numbers of subject teachers in the appendix attached to the minutes.
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Even if you are busy on the weekend, you should arrange time to take Tom to visit his grandmother. She likes soft, not sour fruits or nuts. If needed, I will send you a message to show you where to buy it according to your wishes. On your husband’s and grandkids’ birthdays, you also need to remember to call and ask, and get gifts as much as possible to show your care and family connection. If you need clothing sizes, shoe sizes, or your husband’s preferences, just ask me and I will text you, don’t be shy.
* Note: Bum doesn’t like and doesn’t know how to iron, so he will never do this. Therefore, to save time and electricity, you should spend a weekend ironing clothes for the whole family during the week. Bone broth can also be stewed at once and then divided into small containers to keep in the refrigerator. Dishwashing liquid, laundry detergent, floor cleaning liquid… should watch for promotions, buy large bags for convenience and then pour them into small bottles, refill when used up to both save money and reduce waste and damage to the environment. .
As for things related to the habits, hobbies, and work relationships of Mr. Bum and his neighbors, just slowly learn and remember.
“Only” a few lines, my friend said he was very selective in writing what needed to be delivered. Having lived together for 15 years, understanding each other and becoming more mature as a wife and mother, we know how to write enough messages to send to our successors.
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| This record should have been written sooner so that the young girl could soon imagine that the responsibilities of being a wife and mother are not easy (illustration) |
I asked if you still felt overwhelmed or had any regrets. You said you had tried your best with your responsibilities but if you couldn’t save it, you had to give up. The only regret is that this minute should have been prepared and given to the other girl sooner, so that the young girl could soon imagine family life and how to be a wife.
When I heard that, I responded: But maybe, that girl, with her modern thinking and lifestyle, will know how to arrange her family life in a new way so that it won’t be so hard like my friend. Maybe she will make her husband responsible for taking care of the family, instead of being alone all his life and not having time to take care of himself like you. Who knows, maybe she knows how to balance the spiritual life of the whole family with fun activities, entertainment, and travel, instead of being too thrifty and not spending and enjoying things like you…
Speaking of this, the two of us pondered again. Changing your marriage life is no different from changing your job. The handover person hopes that the handover recipient will quickly understand and be suitable for the job as soon as possible to “sign the contract”. The only difference is that it will be difficult for new candidates to replace those who have been with, nurtured, and built since the early days. But maybe the new candidate will have new ways to operate work in a new way. It is important that the “partner” – the husband – is always cooperative and flexible to be able to coordinate smoothly.
Closing the “15-year contract”, my friend breathed a sigh of relief, seeing his responsibility fulfilled. And I think, maybe you can find another suitable candidate for yourself.
Ngoc An
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