Even though we broke up, seeing him quickly become happy with his new love made me very uncomfortable and felt betrayed.
Reading the article Don’t hurt your children more by showing off your new happiness, I remember vividly the feeling I had in the past, when I witnessed my ex-lover show off his new happiness, even though the nature of the story was different.
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I once had a beautiful love story. We are from the same hometown and started our business in Saigon, so we have many things in common. He was a few years older and experienced, so I learned many things. Then for many reasons, including not being suitable for our age, we stopped. According to the horoscope book that his father read, if we got married, we would be quite happy at first but later on we would have conflicts and even die.
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Unable to cope with the age issue and after many disagreements in which both sides kept their egos instead of reconciling, we broke up. Leaving each other with many tears, at first, I was always sad about my old love story. As for you, I heard some of our acquaintances say that you are also sad and miserable, so you often drink late at night.
A while ago, while casually surfing the internet, what caught my eye was the image of him holding hands with someone new. My friends also texted me that day, telling my ex that I had a new love, and even posted sweet photos on social networks – something we had never done before because I didn’t like that.
But if that was all, I wouldn’t have been so painful and crazy in “tracing” that love affair. The photo posted on the woman’s Facebook has the words “2 month anniversary of love”. Meanwhile, 2 months ago we broke up, meaning they loved each other while he was still in love with me, or just one day they broke up, the next day he immediately dated someone else.
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I was upset, felt like I had been betrayed. While I was mourning the end of the love affair, people quickly found a new destination. I was angry, blamed my ex, and told acquaintances about my frustrations, only to receive comfort, encouragement, and advice to stay calm.
After many times of numbness, I calmed down my anger and became more alert to look at the story. What my friends and I talked about the most at that time was not trying to find out if I was “cuckolded” while in love, but about how to break up properly and how to disclose the new person at the right time. any.
My friends and I all agree that, whether it ends peacefully or loudly, we need time to be “quiet” on social networks before showing off our happiness with someone new. This break is necessary to show that we are serious about the person we once loved. Outsiders looking in don’t comment, judging that this guy/that girl changes her lover like she changes clothes.
I’m not saying it’s wrong for an ex to post romantic photos after a breakup, but I find them cruel when they don’t care about their ex’s feelings. No matter how we were once lovers and had feelings for each other, please don’t rush to show off no matter how happy you are, give the “wound” a chance to heal quickly, or at least show your ex that you are respected. important.
For me, if you go through the same life, you are also the person you once loved. Don’t hurt the other person by declaring your new love too early. What’s wrong with being a little slow?
Linh Phi
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