( Yeni ) – “The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional”, sometimes a sentence spoken while unable to control emotions will hurt someone deeply.
In life, if you want to gain the welcome and respect of others, you definitely cannot say the following 4 words:
1. Say boastful words
When talking to others, you can’t just think about your own feelings, you need to consider and think about other people’s feelings, and you shouldn’t flaunt your happiness too much in front of others.
Because your happiness could very well be someone else’s pain. While you express your happiness, it is also possible that you touch the unhappiness of others, which is similar to taking pleasure in the suffering of others, which is very unhealthy. Good.
“The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional.” ‘Choose your words carefully to please each other’. (Illustration)
For example, if someone is newly divorced or has family discord, conflicts and arguments often occur, but you and your husband show affection and say sweet words in front of others. This is not a sign of kindness. Rubbing salt into other people’s wounds?
Another example is people who don’t have a home and are worried about not being able to buy one, but you show off in front of them how good, comfortable and luxurious your house is.
2. Do not say rude or provocative words
Same thing, same saying, but each person’s way of expressing it is different.
For example, if you help someone with some work, they are very appreciative and want to say thank you, but the person who spoke rudely will stand next to him and say coldly: “There’s no need to thank him, there’s no need to thank him.” It’s just that he doesn’t have anything to do in his free time.”
You and your friends are going out to eat together, you guys are arguing about paying the bill, the person who said rude words will coldly say: “Just let him pay, after all he is the one with the money.” ”.
Your parents are sick, you take good care of them, others praise you as a filial son, people who say rude things will say: “He was just forced to do that, his parents, he didn’t.” If you take care, who will you take care of?
3. Saying sarcastic words
In life, not everyone always has smooth sailing, everyone has their own worries and difficulties. At such times, we should sympathize, understand and help each other.
But there are people who only like to talk about their own advantages and laugh at the shortcomings of others.
For example, when you see someone else doesn’t know how to cook, you immediately say: “You don’t even know how to cook .” When you see an elderly person who doesn’t know how to use a phone, you laugh: “You don’t even know how to use a phone.” know how to use it “, when he saw someone else sick, he laughed and said: “It’s all self-inflicted. If you don’t even know how to take care of your health, who is to blame?”
In life, everyone cannot avoid shortcomings. Who in the world is without weaknesses and mistakes? When you always laugh at others, are you a perfect person? Do you know everything? If others laugh at you, do you feel good inside?
4. Negative speech
People who are always cheerful, generous, optimistic and active can give people positive energy and motivation to move forward, most people like to associate with such people.
On the contrary, people who are negative and pessimistic, frown all day, are sad and depressed, and meet everyone like they are asking for a debt.
When such people talk, they often say negative words, carrying negative energy, saying this is useless, that is useless, feeling that life is meaningless and boring. After listening, other people feel offended and sad. Originally, they were in a very good mood. Hearing such negative words, their mood becomes bad again.
For example, if someone is losing weight, negative people will say: “You look so ugly, it’s useless to lose weight. ” Seeing their children study hard, they will say: “It’s nothing.” , if the family background does not have the conditions, then no matter how hard you try, it will be useless.”
After all, negative people always say that everything others do is wrong, that everything they do is useless, but they themselves do not say useful ways to solve problems, they only know how to lash out and blame others, the type of person who This makes people around you very uncomfortable.
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